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Should I Take an All-Inclusive Vacation? – 5 Things to Consider

All-inclusive.  Some people swear by all-inclusive and love it for its hassle-free ease.  Others abhor it because it’s not “real travel” and allows people to vacation without really escaping their comfort zone.  What’s really up with all-inclusive vacations and when (if ever) should you take one?  Here are five things to consider in making your decision on all-inclusive vacations.

1.  What is your purpose in traveling – Culture? Relaxation? Adventure? Exploration? Escape?

The biggest factor in deciding whether or not to take an all-inclusive vacation is deciding on what kind of vacation you really want to take.  Be honest and don’t let other people’s opinions influence you.  If you want to discover new foods and culture, to really explore and get to know a place, then perhaps pass on all-inclusive this time around.

However, if you want nothing more than to escape and relax, then all-inclusive is a very good option.  How many times do people return home and say, “I need a vacation from my vacation”?  (Which really, who ever feels sorry for that person? Boo hoo, you are worn out from your awesome travel to destination x) Anyways, with all-inclusive packages, this will not be the case.  Your “stressful” decisions will likely consist of: do we go to the beach first or go to the swim-up bar first?  Very horrible indeed.

Our Morning View - Not Bad Eh?

Not having a schedule or anywhere to be was very nice.  Because you are on vacation with the goal of relaxing, you don’t feel as though you are missing out on “cultural destination A” or “museum B” when you opt to take a leisurely breakfast followed by a mid-morning nap on the beach.

For example, one day Ryan and I found ourselves at the swim up bar drinking el capitain con dieta at 9AM.  By lunch, we had polished off a bottle to ourselves.  Completely acceptable.  Would we do these things on a backpacking trip in Peru?  Likely not.

Still, you might want to do some adventuring and exploring.  On our trip, we took out kayaks that were available at our beach and took a day excursion to Tulum and Xel-ha.  At Tulum, we toured the Mayan ruins.

© Heather Freitag 2011

For more detail on our Tulum experience, you can check out my earlier post here.  Xel-ha is like an amusement park but built into a natural lagoon and focused on the water.  You can snorkel, float down in tubes, cliff jump, zip line, bike, see the cenotes, etc.  For additional fees you can swim with dolphins or manatees, walk on the bottom of the ocean and snuba.  More on this at a later date.  Point is, you can find a way to work excursions into your all-inclusive vacation.

2. Food

All-inclusive means all of your food and beverages are included, which is nice because there is no need to carry cash.  Our mini-fridge had a constant stash – especially nice to have the water to bring about.  If you are hungry or thirsty, you can go to one of the restaurants at almost any hour of the day.  Don’t like what you ordered?  Order something else.  At the same time, it means that you are likely to take in all of your meals at the resort instead of venturing out to find restaurants or street vendors.

On the negative side, and not unsurprisingly, the food at all-inclusive resorts is usually mediocre.  Yeah, it’s good or maybe okay, but certainly not anything to rave about.  Our resort tried to liven things up with multiple restaurants:  the buffet, an American sports bar, a Japanese restaurant, an Italian restaurant, a Mexican restaurant, a coffee bar and some snack places.  Still, for the most part, it was just so-so.  The one thing I will say for our resort…breakfast was just what I wanted.  Every morning I had a made-to-order egg white omelet packed with veggies, smoked salmon, fresh baguette, fresh pineapple, a yogurt, fresh grapefruit juice and coffee.  Breakfast was by far the best meal.

Nevertheless, if you consider yourself a foodie and want nothing less than absolutely delicious, authentic local cuisine prepared by the friendly and informative unlikely chef who shares their life story with you while the two of you sit outside at the small, but charming neighborhood hole-in-the-wall, then all-inclusive will leave you sorely disappointed.

3. Becoming a Local

Many people travel with the intent of learning about another culture:  language, customs, food, daily routines, etc. and trying to “become a local”.  It’s a fantastic aspect of travel and honestly if this is truly your goal, you can work it into any type of trip – at least in some respect.  Usually people don’t think of becoming immersed in a new country when they think of all-inclusive.  Rightly so.  But, you can still make efforts.  I spoke as much Spanish as I could with the resort employees and I actually learned a lot and was getting to be decent at basic things.  When we ventured out, Ryan chatted with all of our drivers, who were all very eager to tell us about Mexico.  Still, this is obviously a far cry from the immersion you can experience during other types of travel.  Really, it’s more of a mild exposure than an immersion.

4. Kids

Let me start this by saying I do not have kids, but I hope to have them one day.  That being said, I used to think that there was nothing more annoying than a bratty child acting like a hooligan without any supervision, or worse – with a shoddy “parent” just standing idly by while their kid acts like a hellion.  Then I realized, it’s soooo much worse when you are on vacation and trying to relax.

When I took an all-inclusive trip in college I didn’t see many children.  I went to the Dominican Republic and, with it’s relative instability compared to other tropical destinations, it’s probably not a family favorite.  Or, perhaps the lack of children was because I was in college and chose the cheapest resort imaginable.  Whatever the case, I guess the downside of being able to afford a fairly nice place is that families think it will be nice too.  There were more kids than I would have liked on my last vacation.

This simple fact alone could have been okay had the parents been in control.  They were NOT.  Kids were jumping off of the swim-up bar stools into the pool, splashing the bartender and getting pool water in everyone’s drinks; wrestling and throwing each other in the pool; coughing all over the food at the buffet; a band of 9 year old heathens were running amok in the coffee bar unsupervised at 10:30PM trying to order cappuccinos.  The very astute barista made them evaporated milk with flavoring.  Again, I blame the parents more than I blame the kids; but regardless, they were annoying and I certainly could have done without seeing any of them.

Of course, I’m not the first person to think it would be nice to be on vacation without any little kids screaming or running around like banshees.  Thus the birth of adults-only resorts.  The drawback is that these types of resorts are almost always much more expensive for the luxury of being child-free.  So, if you are thinking of all-inclusive try to gauge the family-friendliness of your resort or at least keep in mind that your moments of relaxation and bliss may be dotted with interruptions from incredibly annoying, miniature holy terrors.

5. Vacation Preparation

Planning a vacation can be a big undertaking.  There are a lot of pieces to travel and so many options!  Personally, I like researching and planning on the front end of a trip and also leaving room to be spontaneous and flexible while I am traveling; but, for many people this is very overwhelming and can be a deterrent.  If this is you, all-inclusive is a fantastic option.  Once you choose your destination, find a resort and pick your travel dates, your decision-making responsibilities are over.  This takes the stress out of planning for many people and leaves them time to just be excited about their upcoming trip.  You could also use a travel agent, but they can be expensive.

Another big part of preparing to travel is saving up money.  If you don’t want to go the hostel route, all-inclusives are pretty great as far as their value.  Most packages are bundled with airfare on many travel websites.  For the Caribbean and Mexico I would recommend using Cheap Caribbean.  I booked my last vacation through them and was very, very happy with it.

Room at Ocean Coral and Turquesa

Obviously, the descriptions above may not apply to every all-inclusive resort, but I think each point is a good thing to think about if you are considering an all-inclusive vacation.  Overall, I would say the biggest difference with all-inclusive vacations is that it really is all about relaxing – an all-inclusive vacation will likely be the least stressful vacation you will ever go on. 

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Posted by on September 8, 2011 in Food and Drink, Travel


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Apparently Cinderella is a Cannibal

A recent article in Newsweek discusses Peggy Orenstein’s new book, Cinderella Ate My Daughter, which explores the effect of Disney princesses on young girls and their self-esteem.  She makes the predictable argument that the exposure to princesses, Bratz, Miley Cyrus, the tiaras and pink frilly dresses, etc. does damage to girls and drives their need to feel sexy.  She pokes fun at some of my childhood favorites, criticizing Ariel (The Little Mermaid) for trading her voice for a chance with a man she’s never met.  The book seems to be her battle with raising her daughter and worrying that after years of writing on women and image that she won’t be a successful mother to a daughter.  The article describes how her daughter’s lack of interest in everything princess changes once she enters school and is influenced by all of the other girls in her class.  Orenstein’s final argument (according to the article) is that the difference between Disney-watchers in the past and little girls now is the massive surge of merchandise and marketing.

First to address the content of Disney movies.  When you dissect the plot to a level like she did with Ariel, I suppose it seems silly.  However, real people (both male and female) do “crazy” things for love.  I don’t think it’s a message of a woman should do anything for a man as much as it is (1) a fairy tale meant to entertain kids and (2) a love story.  Besides, if you really wanted to, you could make any movie sound stupid.  When I was a kid watching Little Mermaid, I came away with wanting to live in the ocean so I could be friends with Flounder and a love for running around and singing Under the Sea.  Nothing more, nothing less.

Orenstein does concede that today’s girls are excelling in school and working hard; but she maintains that the “Disney” effect forces girls to believe they need to be sexy in addition to everything else.  I would say that self-esteem and image depend on a variety of factors.  A solid upbringing and strong parents as role models play a much bigger part than cartoons, movies and toys.  Growing up I LOVED Disney movies and I watched violent movies and I did a whole host of things that I’m fairly certain would make today’s “perfect” parents cringe (ice cream for breakfast, playing Nintendo into the wee hours with my Dad, etc).  Still, I managed to turn out just fine:  happy with myself, not loving everything in the shade of pink, non-violent.  How could this be?!  My parents taught me well.  If your mom is a consumption-driven, must be better than the Jones’s, giant fake boob-toting superficial twit, then maybe Disney will play into your already warped view of how a human should act and what really matters in life.  If your mom makes negative comments about your weight or looks, maybe seeing the beautiful princesses will make you feel worse about yourself.  If you are surrounded by love, encouragement and a solid moral upbringing, you will likely be just fine.

There are also other options available.  I don’t know too much about kids cartoons these days (no kids of my own just yet), but I know that there is Spongebob, Dora the Explorer, and Toy Story for example that don’t seem to have the same type of imaging as the “worrisome” elements of Disney princesses.  Besides, not all princesses follow what Orenstein describes.  For example, Mulan.  Mulan poses as a man to save her father from military service, becomes a strong warrior and saves the emperor from invading Huns.  And Belle in Beauty and the Beast was not just known for her beauty, it was her incredible kindness and ability to see past a person’s looks that made the spell break.

In the end, I’m not trying to say that there is nothing to her arguments.  I just think that a lot of people searching for answers to societal problems are quick to blame others: obesity is because of McDonalds, image problems are because of Disney, violence is because of video games, etc.  Be a parent, take responsibility.  Don’t bring your daughter to get pedicures with you when she is nine, don’t let your ten-year old’s birthday party be at the salon (my sister is a hair stylist and this happens), don’t bring your eleven-year old to Victoria’s Secret to buy underwear, don’t buy your six-year old pants with words on the ass like juicy, or glittery t-shirts that say princess, hottie or sperm dumpster.  Better yet, as a parent, I’m not saying you should wear frumpy mom jeans, but you shouldn’t wear pants that say Juicy on the ass either.

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Posted by on January 31, 2011 in Family


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